Despite her professional accolades, including being the Founder of the U.S. Latino Cultural Competence Intelligence Institute, starting her own company (Rima Strategy), and being a marketing executive for big companies like Procter & Gamble and Coca Cola, Patty says her life's mission is to wake up more and more. She teaches us how to use everyday practices to draw us more towards joy, self-compassion, and presence.
Patty says growth, mindfulness, and living life more fully are everything, they're the reasons we're alive.
Everything in our lives is a practice: work, parenting, or relationships. We get really good at what we practice, whether this is sadness, being righteous, impatient, etc.
If we can begin to practice mindfulness and noticing in our everyday lives, this will first impact our thoughts, which will affect our habits, which will eventually change our consciousness. Once we taste this amazing alternative to the way we've always done things. we'll bring this awareness to our everyday lives and become better and better at it. We'll stop feeding our emotions and be able to think, "It is what it is" and move on when we're triggered.
Attitude and energy permeate everything. Work is no exception. It gives us so much material to practice presence and mindfulness.
Being compassionate with ourselves is a huge part of our practice. We can become aware when we're not trusting ourselves or being harsh with ourselves. We tell ourselves we "should be" this or that. If we beat ourselves up this adds more negativity and uncenteredness. Remember compassion even if you can't practice it.
Happiness is inside each of us. Just notice. This is the first and most important step in the happiness concept.
We can't change anything if we're not present and noticing. To notice you have to be present. It's not charged with emotion, you're just noticing. By noticing we come back to who we are.
The present moment is the only place where we can make a decision, it's the only place where well-being resides.
Use a simple trick like picking a number. Patty says the number 4 reminds her to notice and be present. She takes a deep breath when she sees or hears this number and remembers why she's here.
We're all spiritual beings having a human experience. We all have inside us a sense there's more to our existence than our human bodies. This is why we pursue happiness- because we're created from joy, it's part of our essence, so it makes sense that we're all pulled towards this. It's a deep knowing inside each of us but we get disconnected from it and find ourselves living in a dream state. Being aware that you're aware is the first step.
Life has intelligence of its own: "My heart stands still In reverence, For God is passing by." Ruth Alla Wager and Paula D'Arcy: God comes to you disguised as your life. Life guides us and gives us what we need, our job is to notice. Opportunities come to us disguised as our life, parenting and work also come to us disguised as our life and give us lots of opportunities to grow.
Unlearning is as important as learning
Practice surrender, pick the non-personal things first, the things Michael Singer calls "low-hanging fruit" like the weather, traffic, washing dishes, etc
Use something simple like brushing your teeth as a time to say a mental mantra like, "I am ready for the day" or use this time to simply notice the flavor of the toothpaste and the feel of the bristles.
You have NO idea what's possible for you.
Frame your self-talk as, "I can experience _______ " instead of saying "I am happy." This opens us up to the possibility rather than feeling like we're lying to ourselves. This helps bring compassion to our own affirmation.
"God comes to us disguised as our life."-Paula D'Arcy
"The day is done, The sun has set. Yet light still tints the sky; My heart stands still In reverence, For God is passing by." Ruth Alla Wagner
Michael Singer, Patty's teacher, offers free teachings online: https://www.tou.org/talks.html
Patty's website: http://rimastrategy.com/
Patty's email: email@example.com